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FAQ · Daddy An Li · Los Angeles BDSM

FAQ

Can I be your slave?
Are you available?
When are you available?
Why do you need 48H to book?
What are your rates?
If I do x and y, can you lower your tribute?
Where do you session?
Are you planning to come to (city)?
What is your favorite session activity?
Do you do (activity), (activity), and (activity)?
Why do I need to send a deposit? Can I get my deposit back?
Can I reschedule after sending a deposit?
Do you see first timers, novices, or people without references?
Privacy is of concern to me, and I feel uncomfortable emailing a photo of my ID. Are there other options to verify my vaccination status?
Can I use you as a reference?
Is my fetish weird? How common is my fetish?
Can you tell me what you’ll do to me in session?
Can I have an orgasm in session?
How long of a session do you recommend for me?
I want to session with you but am nervous. Do you have any other options for me?
I’m a broke college student. Do you do discounts?
Can you send me pictures?
Do I need to tip?
I would like to get you a present. Where can I find your wishlist?
What is your height? Weight? Shoe size?
Do you see women/trans/etc. as well?
Do you see couples? Do you teach couples?
Can I ask you out on a date?

Can I be your slave?
If you need to ask that, then no. Consider that you are asking this within the dynamic of a professional and client, and therefore I am assuming you are inquiring about free play. My personal slaves do not get free play – they are still expected to session with me, but they get the privilege of serving me outside of just our sessions alone. Within the dynamic of professional and client, I only take slaves on should they demonstrate excellence and trust over the course of several years. I have no interest in taking on anybody as a personal slave right from the get-go. That’s like asking for a hand in marriage upon first meeting. How do you know if we are even compatible?
Also, I do not fuck my slaves nor do I have “sex slaves” (outside of my personal life). I have play partners for that, and you are clearly not one. My definition of personal slaves lies in service, not personal pleasure. Service means activities that lift me out of the banal (AKA things I just really don’t feel like doing), like cleaning my house, washing my car, doing the dishes, grabbing takeout, and driving me to the airport. Being a personal slave does not mean that you will be chained to my basement and I will be feeding you my lover’s cum and riding your face.
Want to be my slave? Show me your commitment and work for it. If I enjoy you, I may have you run a few errands for me.

Are you available?
No, I am not. I require a minimum three hour notice for all sessions as well as a deposit for most sessions – however, my caveat is that I very rarely take same day appointments. Confirmed regulars have the privilege of setting up last-minute appointments with a rush fee, but I still prefer all my sessions to be booked 48h in advance. Also, am I available for what? Please elaborate on your session interests so that I know we are a compatible match.

When are you available?
I take most of my sessions from Tuesday to Saturday during waking hours between 9AM-9PM. I rarely take sessions on Sundays as a girl’s gotta have some days off! Later sessions may have a higher tribute unless they are part of longer sessions or the only time that I can personally fit in. I typically check my emails from 10AM-8PM PST. I require all weekend sessions to be booked in advance by Friday 7PM latest as I am a human with a social life. I do not check my emails on the weekend outside of processing deposits.

Why do you need 48H to book?
Everybody has a specific amount of time it takes for them to get ready, to check their emails, and to discern their schedules are like. Because I need to process your deposit (as well as allow some time for back-and-forth communication throughout the process), I don’t do same day appointments for first time subs. I am also frequently out of town, so setting it up in advance confirms that I can get back in time.
In an ideal world, I like my sessions set up at least a week in advance. I know this is not realistic for some people, so I have shortened that time to 48h for your personal convenience. 😉

What are your rates?
My tributes are contingent upon the session interests and location. Please fill out my contact form so that I may know your interests and city and price accordingly.

If I do x and y, can you lower your tribute?
No. Bargaining and haggling are extreme turn-off’s for me. You’ve already set yourself up for a mediocre session by disgruntling me and undervaluing the service I provide.
Also, if you are offering up your personal servitude, I have plenty of personal slaves to take care of whatever likely-menial task you are suggesting (and they are probably better trained and more reliable than you).
True slaves do not bargain with me.

Where do you session?
In Los Angeles, I take most of my sessions at private incall dungeons in either DTLA or by USC. They are well-equipped, private, and clean. They have showers and parking (private, public, and paid). For any tours outside of Los Angeles, I prefer to take my sessions at a well-equipped dungeon whenever possible. If no dungeons are available for rent in the city or are of questionable quality, I will host at a private incall location of my choosing. I also frequently travel for outcall sessions, and the tribute is contingent on the distance away from me.

Are you planning to come to (city)?
Please take a look at pretty much anywhere on my website or my social media for my travel schedule. If your city is not listed on it, then you can safely assume that I have no current plans to visit said city. I no longer take my bi-annual East Coast tour, nor do I have any plans to tour outside of whatever sessions are incidental with my personal travel. You may, however, submit a polite request for me to travel to your city provided that you generously sponsor the flight and lodging out on top of my travel tribute.

What is your favorite session activity?
As I am a complex and multi-faceted person, I do not have a single favorite activity. My interests have grown and developed with each year that I have been in Femdom. Medical fetish and all sorts of sadism (humiliation, beatdowns, corporal punishment, cock and ball torture, ballbusting) were my personal kinks before I went professional, but I have grown to also absolutely adore heavy bondage, toilet training, hypnotism, and electrical play. I did not think I was sensual before I became a professional, but I also incorporate tease and denial in nearly all of my sessions. And of course, I cannot say that what I enjoy in my personal life will necessarily be what I enjoy with you – my interactions with each bottom are unique to the scene itself, and I do not know what you will respond well to until we actually play. I can assure you that I will not be taking sessions that I am not interested in, and as a take-charge sort of woman, I will definitely be incorporating in activities that please me within our session. After all, it’s important to expand your boundaries, right?

Do you do (activity), (activity), and (activity)?
Take a look at my Playtime page to see if your desired BDSM interests fall under that. If not, feel free to inquire directly with me as I am aware the list is not all-comprehensive. I’m always learning more about kink, and each day shows me how deep the rabbit hole goes!
I do not have many hard limits within Domination, so you have a very high likelihood that I do cater to your fetish. 😉 A polite message inquiry will get you very far.

Why do I need to send a deposit? Can I get my deposit back?
As my schedule does tend to get booked up quickly, a deposit ensures that my time is not wasted when I cut out a portion of my schedule just for you. Timewasters are prevalent throughout my line of work, and it is something that I account for with every single person that books with me. When you do not show up for our session but ask for that space to be reserved for you, you are taking up a slot that I could have potentially scheduled in with someone else.
Think about it this way: an in-demand restaurant will frequently charge for last-minute cancellations on reservations because they have reserved that spot for you and could have filled it with another reservation. I am the same. All sessions require a deposit until we have seen each other enough times to develop a rapport.
If you are unsure of your schedule on the day that you have booked with me and do not want to send a deposit, I reserve the right to book over your session should someone else want your time slot and send a deposit before you do. If you are a regular, have not sent a deposit for our session, and cancel last-minute, I also reserve the right to ask for the session tribute in full.
Should you cancel your session within 36h of our session, I will keep the deposit. Earlier than that, your deposit will be reserved towards future session rescheduling within a month’s time at your choice. If you do not reschedule within the month, your deposit will be forfeited.
I require everybody to send deposits for three consecutive sessions before allowing you to book without a deposit. Good behavior begets a certain amount of privilege! Should you cancel last-minute (within 36h), the deposit policy is reinstated back in place until good behavior is established again.
All deposits are nonrefundable.

Can I reschedule after sending a deposit?
Sure can! You are allowed to reschedule one time so long as it is done so before 36h of the session (fly-me-to-you sessions notwithstanding). Your whole deposit will be reserved for the next date of your choosing within a month’s time. Since I no longer tour, any sessions booked and rescheduled while traveling may be transferrable for up to a year’s time, either in LA or in a FMTY. If you need to reschedule a second time, you will need to send a new deposit in whole.

Do you see first timers, novices, or people without references?
Sure do! As long as you have a courteous and thoughtful application, are compatible with me, and follow all remaining protocol, I’m more than happy to be your first professional BDSM Domination experience. I am many people’s first realtime session ever and love being their first in-person experience.
If you have any questions about the research, booking, and sessioning process, I highly recommend reading my guide for novices to get an idea of what to expect for your first ProDomme session.

Privacy is of concern to me, and I feel uncomfortable emailing a photo of my ID. Are there other options to verify my vaccination status?
Sure thing. I can suggest a couple of options for verification.
1. Send a confidential email. The link provided is for Gmail, but many email services allow for emails that have passcodes and timed expiration dates. I suggest taking a look at your email provider to see what options they have. Alternatively, you may look into filesharing services with similar attributes.
2. Verify via Skype/Zoom for a $50 fee. This is not a cam session, but merely an option for visual verification online that takes a minute or so. The fee is paid in full upfront prior to scheduling for the online verification. I will be off cam, and you will be on cam (obviously).
3. Verify via a full cam session ($150 for 15min), including vaccine verification at the very beginning. A fun little bit of foreplay, if you will. In this option, we have a chance to play online or chat.
4. Verify in-person for a $200 fee. We meet at a discreet and generic location, most likely a coffee shop conveniently located for me, and I double-check your vaccination and ID card. Due to this being in-person, I would not require you to bring it the day of the session. This is not a social dating and would be a quick in-and-out verification only. The fee is paid in full upfront prior to scheduling the in-person verification.
5. Verify via an outdoors coffee date ($300 for 1-1.5h), including vaccination verification at the very beginning. This is not play and is a relaxed social outing for us to get to know each other better.
6. Verify via certified mail by mailing photocopies of your vaccination card and ID to my business mailing address.
All of these options except for #4 still require bringing in both ID and vaccination card to verify in-person the day of the session. If you are unable to do this last bit, then we are incompatible to play in real time.

Can I use you as a reference?
Sure thing. I’ll happily send up to three references in two years after our last session. I do request a $200 fee per reference should you request more than that within the two year time frame — my reasoning is that after three references, you should have new recent references that do not include me. I do not provide references after two years.

Is my fetish weird? How common is my fetish?
I get it: you’re apprehensive about coming out with your personal kinks, and that’s ok. Ultimately, my vocation deals with the “weird”. I mean, that’s what fetish and BDSM exist around – the alternative sexual desires. Everything is weird, and nothing is. We’re all in the same kinky boat together.
I don’t like calling anybody’s sexual desire’s “weird” or “strange” because it is really not up to me to judge. After all, I’m a dominatrix! I probably do stranger things than you on a daily basis, and few things faze me in that regard. Realistically, I cannot tell you how common your fetish is because the people I see are very specifically oriented towards me and my persona. Some people specialize in tickling, some people specialize in humiliation, some people specialize in toilet play, some people specialize in hair fetish…the list goes on and on. What I see as “common” is only relative to the clientele that I attract within that area, so I can’t tell you how prevalent a fetish is in any given population because I am only one person in a very specific niche in a very specific location in time and space. My knowledge on popularity (or unpopularity) is merely anecdotal.

Can you tell me what you’ll do to me in session?
No. Those are my secrets to have, and why would I ruin a surprise? I know you’re probably itching to know… call me or text me to find out. I’d love to talk dirty to you on those sites. 😉

Can I have an orgasm in session?
I do not start or end my sessions placing an importance on an orgasm — if anything, I attract subs of a similar mindset and who are more interested in the experience than the finality of an orgasm. I also tend to believe that orgasms can often be a reward for good behavior, meaning that not everybody deserves one.
If an orgasm is important to you, let me know in advance, and I will consider it. This does not mean an orgasm is guaranteed — it simply means I have considered your needs and how that may play into a scene. I give zero assurances for any climactic end largely because it does not really interest me, however good toys may reap good rewards contingent on behavior.
With all requests for climaxing, I do not help out in any substantial hands-on way. Conventional phallic pleasure does not bring me joy, and hence I am a Sadist and a Dominatrix.
Should you like a more hands-off approach to phallic objectification, I recommend requesting the use of my Venus 2000 milking machine which comes at a surcharge of $150 per session.

How long of a session do you recommend for me?
I have a one hour minimum for all my sessions, but as a general whole, I prefer all my sessions to be a minimum of two hours. I price my tribute accordingly. Unless you have a very specific fetish or scenario that will take less than an hour, I find that one hour frequently feels rushed and forced.
For novices, I like to take the extra time to ease them into the scene and develop rapport and trust between the two of us. An hour may seem overwhelming or intimidating with the sheer density of sensations that may occur. Also, a rushed Mistress is not a happy Mistress.
The sweet spot for most of my sessions therefore runs between 2-4 hours, depending on session interests. Certain activities bode better with longer sessions. For full transformation/sissification, I recommend a minimum of two hours purely for all the makeup preparation and shaving. For heavy bondage (rope, mummification, leather restraints, etc.), I recommend a minimum of three hours as elaborate bondage takes time to get in and out of, not even including the time spent in it for pure enjoyment.

I want to session with you but am nervous. Do you have any other options for me?
Of course. I am happy that you are cognizant of your feelings within this realm and think it’s important to move at a pace that is comfortable with you. I would suggest either a Niteflirt/phone, text message, or a Skype session to get us more acquainted with each other without the pressure of an in-person session. I also do in-person consultations at a public location (typically a cafe); these consultations are not dynamically Femdom, but instead casual meetings to get us acquainted with each other.

I’m a broke college student. Do you do discounts?
I do not do discounts of any kind. Female Domination is a luxury, not a necessity. I have spent time and money honing my craft, skillset, and gear and my tribute reflects that. In the same way that you have spent money on your education in order to better your job future, so have I spent money on my practice to better my output. I do not continue conversations with hagglers.
If you are on a limited spending limit, you have a couple of options:
– Save up money. 😉
– Set up a phone, text message, or Skype session.
– Apply for one of my specials when available. As of January 2018, I offer specials for very specific activities that I am interested in using test slaves for. These specials are specifically for the activities I am interested in honing and exploring, nothing else – skills like singletailing, suturing, shibari practice. These sessions are purely for MY own personal practice and do not cater to you, which means I will not be wearing fancy fetish gear nor will I be accepting any requests for specific activities on your part. You will merely be a practice dummy for my own use.

Can you send me pictures?
Unless they are pictures of what we took in session, all other pictures are tributed. Plenty of photos exist of me online and it doesn’t take an internet whiz to find them. Do your own typing and find them yourself, or better yet, take a thorough look at my gallery and social media.
If you’d like some customized photosets, feel free to shoot me a text via textanli.com to inquire.

Do I need to tip?
My tributes are set so that tips are not necessary, however they are highly appreciated (and of course, I take personal note of all tippers). Had a wonderful time and want to show it? A tip is a fine way of showing your gratitude. If you don’t have anything on hand, you may tip me via SpankPay, Amazon Giftcard, or any of my private payment avenues (if you already have access to them).

I would like to get you a present. Where can I find your wishlist?
Say hello to my Amazon Wishlist and my Babylikestopony Wishlist.

What is your height? Weight? Shoe size?
5’0″ – I don’t weigh myself – 34/25/37 – an extra-wide 6.5 US. I am quite petite, despite what my pictures may cause you to think.

Do you see women/trans/etc. as well?
Absolutely. I am queer and believe that every gender should be able to experience Femdom BDSM. I love playing with all types of bodies and sexualities! I am firm advocate and participant of the QTPOC community (falling into both Q and POC) and believe that everybody should be allowed to explore Femdom, regardless of your orientation, identification, and background. In recent years, more of my clients have swung towards AFAB/NB/GNC/trans/etc., and I have to be honest, you guys always end up being some of my favorites. 😉 (Obviously, this doesn’t mean you are entitled to a session to me regardless of poor behavior or lack of tribute.)

Do you see couples? Do you teach couples?
Yes! I love playing with and teaching couples. Let me know what you are specifically aiming to experience or learn, and I’d be more than happy to participate. I also adore watching how others play, so I always feel honored when a couple decides to bring me in.

Can I ask you out on a date?
I do not date my clients. You can, however, set up a social outing with me for dinner, drinks, and perhaps the opera or theater. All my social outings are tributed, and you will be expected to pay for everything else that night.