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Playtime Interests · Daddy An Li · Los Angeles BDSM Mistress

I have a lot of fun with damn near all aspects of kink, but I’ve been doing this long enough where I can comfortably define my specialties and favorites. And while these aspects are not the only things I enjoy and excel at, they tend to be constants in how I play. (take out this paragraph?)

I identify largely as a Sadist and Bondage Top with control freak tendencies on most days. I have an inclination for pushing my subbies to the tipping point of near-breaking, pulling back, and then pushing again. I’ve been told that I’m quite adept at reading exactly how much punishment to dole out – typically by bringing one to a point of suffering they did not initially expect to reach. I am a heavy player at my core, testing the limits of acceptable cruelty wherever feasible and consenting.

These preferences have manifested themselves in a couple of very fun and very evil fetishes and modes of Domination. I am perhaps best known for a couple of activities, and I do pride myself on excelling at them. These activities include CBT/ballbusting, bondage in all forms (but more specifically predicament, rope, and leather), judicial caning, and full toilet training. I adore physical domination and the ability to forcefully push someone into place. I am a bully’s bully.

Don’t let that scare you off, though. How could I possibly be successful as a Dominatrix if my only skills were extreme forms of sadism? Consider my predilection for pain as a tool I keep holstered – not all situations require a brutal touch, so this is one tool I keep in store for just the right moment. While I may have used my sadism at all possible moments in my younger years, I have a bit more of a deft touch now and only apply as needed and consented.

With that in mind, I’ve honed my edge in nearly all realms of Female Domination. I am very fluent in the language of BDSM and Femdom and have taken sessions in all manners of character, from the most maternal tenderness to the most callous brutality. Each scene requires a singular energy to tease out the most out of that particular power dynamic, and I therefore shape my interactions accordingly. After all, what could be more fun that watching you crumple in my hands? I am more attached to the unique interplays within each scene rather than the specific tools used to carve them out.

Please note that not all of these activities may be available to you as I only offer legal activities within Los Angeles or whichever city I may be playing in. Some of the listed items are lifestyle and video interests. I do not entertain illegal session requests.



CBT is an acronym for Cock and Ball Torture, and it is exactly what it sounds like. After all, if some Higher Power didn’t want me to torture them, why would they make them so funny looking? As a strong supporter of Female Supremacy, I can’t help but believe that these dangly bits were put on this earth for me to abuse, and I fully intend to subjugate them to my will whenever possible.

One of my favorite things to do in session is to immediately tie up the genitals in bondage, because why bother pretending you’re free when you most certainly aren’t? CBT bondage is a particularly potent metaphor for controlling one down to their basest desires.


I’ve been kicking boys in the balls since I was six. The first time was a happy accident, and the following times thereafter were a very pointed effort on my end after I realized how much fun could be had in this arena.

My favorite part about ballbusting (and with most activities, to be fair) is the reactions. The pleading fear in one’s eyes as I wind up my foot for a full-force punt. A look of soul-shattering pain on the victim that brings a big smile to my face. And of course, the complete broken desperation as the bottom realizes that more are coming… let’s just say ballbusting had become both a hobby and a lifestyle even before I became a Dominatrix.


Castration goes hand in hand with cock and ball torture, naturally. After all, what could be more terrifyingly delightful than casually commenting that I may cause the loss of reproductive abilities with the wrong move? I find that threatening a sub with the loss of their manhood at just the right moment creates a wonderful impetus for good behavior.

While I may not engage in real live castration play for obvious legal reasons, I am more than happy to explore all simulations and roleplays possible in turning men into eunuchs, from burdizzos and elastrators to needles and scalpels. The possibilities are endless!


I am of the belief that creativity thrives under restriction – or at the very least, I will always get creative when restricting you. Bondage was one of my later loves within BDSM, but it quickly became a primary focus when I realized that all the fetish porn I adored were some iteration of objectification bondage. (Not so ironically, I now produce a lot of bondage porn as well!) I am constantly investigating and learning new modes of restriction and have spent an ungodly amount of money on restraints in an obsessive pursuit for a greater and greater amount of control.

I am definitely a maximalist when it comes to bondage. I love it all: leather restraints, rubber gimp suits and vacbeds, rope suspension, predicament and stress positions, vet wrap and bandage encasement, sensory deprivation hoods, plastic wrap mummification, metal chains and padlocks, caged confinement, gag objectification… if it involves the restraint of a willing bottom, I am always game. The tighter and more inescapable, the better.

I prefer longer bookings of minimum two hours or longer for all heavy bondage scenes. Stretching beforehand is highly recommended. (Yoga is a great practice for bondage bottoms.)

Predicament Bondage

Predicament bondage could be described as being restrained between a rock and a hard place. I find something cosmically beautiful in causation, and having a bit of God-complex myself whilst in scene, I love being the architect of a particularly sticky causal situation. One wrong move on the bottom’s end can incur a tremendous amount of suffering, so in other words, you’re fucked if you do, and you’re fucked if you don’t.

My favorite forms of predicament bondage often involve CBT and yoga poses. Consider it an excellent practice in both your spirit and your frail male ego!

Rope Bondage

Rope is the duct tape of BDSM, and I use it in nearly all of my sessions. My style is influenced by Western/fusion and Japanese methodologies, using traditional Kinbaku ties with Western techniques and materials. In short, I use all the skills at my disposal to effectively restrain you.

Full Immobilization

For all heavy bondage scenes, I recommend a three hour minimum to fully enjoy the sensation of being entirely bound. Elaborate, layered bondage takes a generous amount of time to apply and adjust, and once you’re finally tied up, you’ll probably want to lay back and relax for a while.

Sensory Deprivation + Sensory Overload

While not strictly falling under the bondage categorization, I find that both sensory deprivation (sendep) and sensory overload go hand in hand with heavy bondage. The process of depriving or overwhelming one’s senses often requires restricting the body for complete sensory control.

That, and I truly love gimps and have learned that while gimps are mostly useless by nature, one of the ways you can fuck with them is by making them feel things.

Corporal Punishment / Impact Play

I like hitting people, what can I say? One could say that I am entirely in my element when administering corporal punishments. (Some of my subbies might say that I am altogether too comfortable, but that’s a different story.)

I’m well-versed in many corporal punishment implements and have an extremely expansive collection of impact tools to reflect that. My current favorite acquisitions are my classic leather implements from the London Tanner, including a variety of Lochgelly tawses, straps, rugbeaters, and heavy paddles – each one more brutal than the last, and all guaranteed to leave lovely marks for weeks, if you’re into that sort of thing.

My first impression of Femdom involved corporal punishment. A strict, leather-clad Domina singletailing a helpless gimp, his screams stifled with a ball gag. Needless to say, I very much embody this energy now but with a lot more laughing along the way.


“Walk quietly and carry a big stick.”

While I am comfortable with nearly all forms of CP, my personal favorite is caning. I am very particular about the types of canes I use – namely rattan canes anywhere from 1.5-2 centimeters wide. One of my whipping boys has made most of the canes that I use since 2014, and I am very, very, fond of them.

The entire process of caning is a satisfyingly visceral experience for me, from the movement and swish of the cane to the perfectly parallel red welts that arise upon impact. I have been told that I have a very athletic form while caning, and that in turn my cane strokes are some of the hardest that many experienced CP enthusiasts have experienced.

Judicial caning is my go-to punishment when disciplining my personal slaves.

Singletail Whipping

A singletail whip is probably the most iconically Femdom toy there is. While I already have a wickedly good aim, singletailing is a skill that needs regular practice and maintenance. Because of this, I offer practice dummy specials for those willing to lend their flesh in pursuit of me improving my aim.

Toilet / Raunch Play

I’ve often described myself as a full grown woman with a thirteen year old boy’s sense of humor, and yes, that includes all the toilet jokes one could ever possibly make. Those close to me know that I mean it when I say that few things are better in the world than waking up and shitting on a man.

Toilet play encompasses a wide variety of activities including golden showers, brown showers, ruby showers, and Roman showers – basically anything involving bodily excreta.

Rauch play includes the aforementioned categories, but also brings in the categories of scents and smells – specifically bodily odors.


Full toilet training (FTT) is one of my most popular requests, and for good reason. After all, I’m regular, filthy, and have a great ass. It’s a combination to make any toilet swoon.

I take all of my brown showers in the late morning from 9AM-12PM – just in time for your lunch break! Full consumption is always preferred because I don’t believe in wasting my waste. 😉


There’s a reason they’re called golden showers (GS), and it’s because you’re damned lucky to be experiencing it.

I find that many of my subs find the act of receiving a GS as incredibly sensual and erotic, and I don’t blame them. The urethra’s proximity to the pussy makes it secondary to squirting, and the process of drinking it all can be an act of Goddess worship itself.

I frequently consider the final act of pissing on a slave as a positive and intimate reward for good behavior.


I am quite a spitter (although this activity has been limited a lot more with COVID). I love spitting on my cock, in your mouth, on your face, on your genitals… something about spitting feels like an act of Dominant ownership to me. It can be simultaneously the most humiliating and the most sensual act, depending on the context.

Ruby Showers

Consuming my menses is the ultimate step in worshiping the Goddess. After all, menstrual blood is the very essence of femininity. I use a menstrual cup, ensuring that you get every last drop. Or perhaps you need a to-go lollipop for you to enjoy later? Either way, I can ensure that this rare treat is something that won’t go to waste.

Medical Play

Medical play was my very first fetish. I can tie it all back to one scene out of porno magazine involving a particular scene involving a gyno chair, a speculum, and shiny chrome tools.

Ever since then, I’ve been absolutely besotted with all things medically invasive. I get shivers at the cold sterility of stainless steel, the sharpness of needles and scalpels, the complete dehumanization of lab experimentation, and the sudden vibrant warmth of deep red blood.

Needle play, cutting, sounding, catheters, enemas, full body medical exams, electrical play, castration explorations, dental gags, speculums, medical staples, saline inflation, orthopedic bondage… these are a few of my favorite things.

Electrical Play

Someone once told me that electrical play was like having a joystick for a slave, and I couldn’t agree more. My personal favorite tool in electroplay is the ErosTek 232B, a powerful little e-stim Tens unit with a variety of nervewracking patterns designed to make you squeal and flinch. Tens units are used in physical therapy and chiropractic settings, so it’s safe to say that they can leave a pretty strong impact on your body.

For more cutaneous forms of play, violet wands are an excellent introduction into e-stim. I used to not be a fan of these devices, but recently I realized that I could use some of them as gentle insertables… let’s just say I have revised my original opinion on them and now wholeheartedly endorse the use of them.

Other types of electrical play also include cattle prods and shock collars, and they are all as fun as they sound.


While I am not a trained phlebotomist, I am undoubtedly a bloodthirsty bitch who fantasizes about painting the halls red with your blood. Blood is beautiful, and I can’t get enough of it. Some types of blood play including needle play, cutting, blood cupping, and a variety of other fucked-up sadistic methods. It is definitely one of the heavier forms of play.

Beatdowns + Roughhousing

I am a very hands-on person, and I mean that in a very literal sense. I grew up tussling with the boys and can throw a mean punch. A good beatdown takes me to my childhood bullying roots, and I have the athletic stamina to back it up.

A beatdown session always puts me in a chipper mood, and I play background music to match. You can expect me to frighteningly cheerful the entire time, and I have been known to dance around while throwing hands.


I am a natural-born Humiliatrix and can easily say that I’ve been doing it since I was but a wee lass. I pride myself on having a sharp wit and an even sharper tongue, and I always seem to find an incising way to cut you down to the core.

Of course, when given free rein to tear you down, I will not hold back. I did tell you I was a sadist, right? I love figuring out what makes you psychologically tick only to use it to completely shatter your ego into cute helpless pieces.


I realize that the concept of race play draws a very polarized view, and I respect whichever side you may take on it. As someone who staunchly practices antiracism (or perhaps because of it), I oftentimes find race play scenes hilarious and am more than happy to indulge in your fantasy predilections. With that in mind, I do not allow any type of white supremacy raceplay at all.

Slut Training

I don’t fault you for wanting to be a slut. You’ve probably watched a lot of porn and wondered what it was like on the other side – what it felt like to be pushed around, treated like a piece of meat and a couple of conveniently wet holes, and utterly ravished to the point of no return.

Well, lucky, lucky you…

Anal stretching + training

I’m a size queen. And by that, I mean you’ll be the receiver of that size. What can I say? This petite Daddy has a Napoleon complex. Within pegging scenes, I will always strap on the biggest toy I can fit inside my sluts.

I’ve trained a lot of willing and eager sluts in taking bigger and bigger toys, and one could say that I take a very “hands-on”… or “hands-in” approach.


With my “hands-in” approach in mind, fisting is my absolute favorite form of slut training. There is something incomparably visceral to being wrist to elbow deep in someone, controlling them from the inside, and feeling every single reaction as they convulse and clench around my arm.

Prostate milking

While not possible at every single moment, I do believe most prostate-owners are capable of the mythical prostate milking. A proper build-up and warm-up, the right mood, and a couple of helpfully shaped implements can make all the difference. As a competitive sort, I can happily announce that I have changed many people’s minds about their abilities to be anal capabilities.

Strap-On / Pegging

A perennial favorite by damn near everyone – after all, if you can’t fuck me, then isn’t the next best thing to get fucked by me? What is more classically kinky than the genderfuck of a woman strapping on a dildo to make a man her bitch?

Sissification / Crossdressing / Feminization

I truly do love a good gender transformation. Something about the process of turning a dowdy man into a sexy little minx is very satisfying for me. A thorough full transformation takes time. Makeup, hair removal, wig styling, nails, and a killer outfit make the girl, and I love adding in my own little special touches here and there to remind you that you’re Daddy’s girl. I moonlighted as a makeup artist in the adult industry and am very experienced in making you look oh-so-pretty.

Chastity + Keyholding

Chastity encompasses a little bit of a lot of categories – CBT, bondage, sissification, humiliation, slave training, tease and denial… – so I decided to give it it’s own category. After all, it’s a beloved form of play that so many Dommes dedicate the entire month of Locktober to it!

I personally adore keyholding, and the longer you’re locked, the happier I am. I am a fervent believer in controlling someone through their basest desires, and what better way to do so than to lock up their genitals? Each day, minute, and hour becomes a constant reminder of their servitude and commitment to me.

And isn’t the tease so much sweeter after you’ve been denied for oh-so-very long?


  • Nipple torture / Breast Play
    Nipples can be so entertaining. A slight flick, a tender rub, and that explosion of pain when the clamps come off…and of course me, right in your face while you are kneeled down before me. Breathing on your neck, scratching your chest as you give your entire body to me. Grabbing your chin, pulling you up so we are looking at each other eye to eye, just so I can watch that expression in your face as you melt in my hands with each pinch I make. Now imagine all of that after your breasts have been pumped to be oh-so-sensitive…
  • Smoking
    My glossy red lips around a cigarette, inhaling and then blowing into your ashtray mouth. Breathe it in, savor it, and adore it. I have full lips perfect for smoking, and of course, I take full advantage of that. All smoking sessions must be alerted in advance as not all dungeons accommodate smoking.
  • Hypnosis
    Hypno for short, this was one of those activities that surprised Me when I first explored it. I enjoy it immensely because nothing is similar to the specific satisfaction of bringing a submissive into a state of total trance. I find a hypno session to be incredibly meditative and focused on my end. I often seem to be in a bit of a daze after a good mesmerizing! Hypnotism can be cathartic, therapeutic, sadistic, and disciplined. I have been told innumerable times that I have an excellent voice for hypnotherapy. Because not every submissive is capable of falling into a deep trance, I have also engaged in hypno roleplays.
  • Slave Training
    For the true submissive. Classical high protocol, strict Female Supremacist training to rebuild you into My ideal, sub-human slave. Be prepared to have your old notion of self broken down for a higher cause, My cause. Slave training runs from quintessential collar and leash training to slave positions, all reinforced with some good ol’ fashioned disciplinary reinforcement.
  • Leather Worship
    My favorite tactile fetish material. Leather is my default fetish outfit, and should you request this, I will be more than happy to oblige (given that it does not coincide with an activity that may ruin My leathers). I love the musky scent, the buttery texture, and the way it makes a woman look like a true Alpha Femme. You can be sure that I will take a sniff of my own leather before allowing you to breathe it in. A Lady can never have enough leather.
  • Interrogation / Brainwashing / Military Scenes
    Breaking a bitch down gives me an immense sense of satisfaction. Military scenes are a personal turn-on –  the more severe, the better –  and I get off on watching slaves cry. For full interrogation/brainwashing sessions, I highly suggest overnight sessions for extended confinement to fully get into your mind.
  • Objectification
    A fantastic way of making a slave useful! Be this through human furniture or treating your body like the piece of whore meat that it is, objectification is an entertaining way of putting a submissive in his or her place.
  • Pet Play
    …with you as My loyal steed or fawning puppy, not with real animals, silly. I’ve always said that slaves were more like pets than people, so why not take it to the next level? By the way, I am definitely an animal person. 😉
  • Shopping & Financial Domination
    Because what Lady doesn’t like being spoiled by unworthy losers? Enough said about that. 🙂
  • Tease & Denial
    I lean more heavily on the side of denial, because remember: you’ll never be good enough for me! As those who have trained me once said, sometimes there is no greater torture than a good tease and denial. Orgasm control and edging fall into these categories, however I never apply assistance in the form of handjobs, blowjobs, or traditional sexual activities of the sort. I am under the belief that a good tease and denial does not require any physical assistance, just a subdued mind.
  • Trampling
    I have been known to be quite acrobatic in My trampling sessions. Be it with heels or without, let it be known that I specialized in balance beam when I was a gymnast.
  • Public Humiliation / Outings
    As an exhibitionist, I have no qualms with showing the entire world how pathetic you are in the presence of Me. Whether we go to a sex shop and I make you try on sissy clothing, or we go out to a meal and I spit in your cup at the dining table, public play is exciting and a whole wide world of exploration! Please note that any sort of public play or outing does require advance notice and planning.
  • Shaving / Waxing
    A freshly razored head is one of My biggest sensual fetishes. I love running My fingers over a clean cut, and pride Myself on My attention to detail when it comes to making sure whatever I am shaving is perfectly clean.
  • Breath Play
    Choking bitches out, and then some. Be it hand-over-mouth (HOM), smothering, gas masks, scissor holds, or the ever classic neck stranglehold, having power over your lungs is a delight for Me.
  • Women, Trans, & Couples
    You bet your stars I am a bonafide pansexual. 😉 I love playing with people of all genders, sexualities, and backgrounds. Variety is the spice of life!
  • Multi-Domme Sessions
    I have a wide cadre of friends in all the cities I play in available for co-topping. The more, the merrier! Available with advance notice. Also, expect the tribute to be higher (ie: double for doubles, triple for triples, etc.). I do not believe in doing discounts for more than one Domme.
  • Overnight Play / Extended Sessions
    I find longer sessions to be a more satisfying experience for both Me and the sub. Simply put, I have more time to get to know you and develop a more nuanced understanding of your kinks and fetishes. Furthermore, extended play brings in an aspect of tension through time – because who knows how long you were really in that body bag for? Minutes turn into hours…turn into days…turn into weeks…and at the end of it all, you may find yourself a changed bitch.


  • Sensual Domination
    While quite a few of My interests veer into strict and severe territories, I am also extremely well-versed in slow and sensual domination. After all, why not use all My feminine wiles to My advantage, particularly when slaves can be so weak around a beautiful Woman?
  • Body / Attire Worship
    Feet, legs, and ass. I realize how perfect My physique is, and how terribly badly a slave may want to kiss them. Body worship only comes as a reward for good behavior, so work towards it, sluts! I have size 5.5-6.5 feet, a 36-inch derriere, and size 0-2/24-25/XS bottoms.


    • Ass Smothering – With an ass as delicious as mine, I enjoy taunting My bitches with it by asphyxiating their faces out with it. A sort of bittersweet irony comes in being choked out by such perfection. For those who are unaware, ass smothering is not only facesitting – it is quite literally smothering your breath out. My ass smothering is only done fully clothed.
    • Foot Fetish – Bare feet massages, stockings, stinky workout toes, thigh high boots, toe sucking, and face fucking are some of the many podophilic delights I indulge in.
      • Boot Worship – Lick ’em clean, black them until they look like new…and of course, always from the ground up. Thigh high boots are perfect for walking all over the lesser species.
    • Hosiery Fetish I never knew how much I loved hosiery until I became a Dominatrix. I find nylons to be a lost and seductive form of lingerie. From classic Wolfords or silks to punk rock fishnet, seamless pantyhose to derriére-enhancing stockings, hosiery is incredibly sensual to Me. Can’t you just imagine My skintight nylons grazing across your lips?
    • Glove Worship – Leather, lace, and satin wrapped around My agile fingers as I run them all over you…
  • Wrestling
    For wrestling sessions, I only participate in non or semi-competitive wrestling –  and of course, I always play to win. How could I not, with legs so strong that My scissorholds would quickly make you see stars? I enjoy incorporating scent play into My wrestling sessions as well.
  • Food Play / Sploshing
    There is something quite decadent about wet and messy fetishism that I find entertaining. You provide the food, of course. I am not a fan of vinegar-based sauces for sploshing.


    • Feeder / Feedee – Stuffing food down your gullet until you feel like your stomach is going to explode, and then stuffing more down.
  • Forced Intoxication
    Also known as Forced Intox, I find submissives hilarious when they become blundering fools around me. They can be so easy to manipulate with an inhale of poppers or a friendly shot of alcohol. Please note that prior to engaging in this sort of play, I require the sub to have a clean and non-threatening bill of health. All sorts of play following such will be closely monitored.
  • Age Play
    From bratty daughter who bosses you around to nurturing mother who changes your diapers.
  • JOI
    Also known as jerk-off instructions or forced masturbation, you do precisely what I tell you to do for the privilege of releasing in my presence. Accompanied often by laughing and spitting while I entertain myself with the sight of you trying to resurrect your feeble manhood. Orgasm control is important to me as your orgasm should never belong to you.
  • Roleplays / Psychodramas
    I have an active imagination and a theatrical personality, so roleplays are a great outlet for that. I’m open to all roleplay suggestions provided that I am always the top in the scenario.
  • Tickle Torture
    With nimble little fingers like Mine, I am sure I will be able to find your particularly sensitive spots that make you weak in the knees. I prefer My tickle torture to be done in bondage so as to have no escape on your part.
  • Fire Play
    From dripping candles to burning off your ball hairs, who doesn’t love fire? It can be both sensual and sadistic, and adds a fun sensory element to all sorts of play. Please note that not all facilities accommodate fire play.
  • Bizarre and Unique Fetishes
    The world of kink is endless! Surprise me with your fetish. Chances are I have heard it and done it before, but I’m always receptive to new ideas.

Hard Limits

  • Illegal activities. Enough said on this one.
  • “Jobs” of any kind.  hand jobs, blow jobs, etc. These are within the domain of a kinky escort or a full-service Domme in the US, so if you require these, you should search one out rather than going to a classically trained Dominatrix. I am sure she would be far happier and more skilled than I in assisting you in these endeavors.
    (The United States has a specific tradition of separating heteronormative sexual activities from classical Professional Domination. What is standard in the States is not necessarily standard in other countries.)
  • Bare bottom worship. This is never an option. Despite how glorious My ass may be and how badly you want to nuzzle yourself deep in it, the fact of the matter is that I do not want any part of you making direct contact with My nether regions. After all, isn’t part of all the fun showing you what you can’t have?
  • Requests for topless or bottomless outfits and nudity. While I have very occasionally done this on occasion at my own leisure with well-established clients, I never accept any requests for nudity of any kind because my body is not yours. In fact, any excessive requests of nudity will be promptly ignored. I will probably end up being extra covered because I find you rude, so there’s that.
    While I do love basking in all my nude glory, this is something that I firmly believe is a choice of my own, not at the behest of the sub.
  • Breast smothering. I don’t particularly enjoy this activity, and furthermore, I do not have the generous breasts to even engage in this activity in a comfortable manner. Did you actually want my ribcage rubbed up on your face? (This is a rhetorical question and not up for debate. Doing breast smothering with small breasts is highly physically uncomfortable for me as it is just bone on bone.)
  • Competitive wrestling. I only engage in fantasy wrestling. I am a petite woman and am not trained in wrestling or martial arts, so I’m not interested in engaging in potentially violent and dangerous activities to my own body. I’m only interested in wrestling scenarios where I am guaranteed a win and you are essentially a sack of human that I toss around. 😉 Anybody who crosses this automatically incurs a cancelled session the moment upon doing so.
  • Switch or submissive scenarios. This should be self-explanatory, and if you feel the need to push this, you are in the wrong place. I am what I am, and I am very confident that you cannot do anything to sway me otherwise. Attempts to do anything otherwise will not even be deemed worthy of a response and will almost certainly result in an immediate blocking.
    Remember, when you insist on asking someone to do something they have enthusiastically said no to, you are violating their consent. Consent is the most important aspect of playing in BDSM. I do not tolerate consent-pushing in any form.
  • Animals of any kind. I do not do any type of animal crushing whatsoever, nor will I engage in any sort of play with animals of all sizes. This includes bugs (insects, worms, spiders, etc.). Bugs are animals too, you monsters.
  • Cumming on me. I can’t believe I have had to say this, but you may not come on Me under any circumstances, even if it is on My thigh high boots and you are to lick it off clean. I’m not your cumbucket. You are your own cumbucket.
  • Talking smack about other women. I’m not into this at all. Homewrecking is one thing, but me denigrating your wife/girlfriend/partner/coworkers/etc. is another thing.
  • Of course, sex. (Please note the first and second bullets.)

Modes of Interaction

  • Realtime Servitude
    Ready to play? Serve me in real life by setting up a session. I prefer incall at one of the several dungeons I enjoy as they typically have all the equipment and settings required to make that special scene, however outcall is available for the more generous sub. I also enjoy public play scenarios as long as the situation is appropriate for the environment.
  • Casual meetings
    I realize that some of you are scared to dip your toe in immediately. Perhaps you’ve been burned by a not-so-great experience with another provider, perhaps you’re an over thinker and need a gentle introduction, or perhaps you just want to have a BDSM consultation of sorts. Whatever the reason, I am more than happy to meet up with you for a casual introduction at a cafe or restaurant of my choice to chat. These meetings are not true sessions and do not involve play of any kind. I will not be dressed up in fetish gear. Consider it a social introduction before the actual play. My casual meetings typically last 1-2 hours. You will, of course, pick up the bill.
  • Distance Training
    You may also admire from afar, thanks to the wonders of our contemporary age!


    • Phone Sex –  Worried about showing your face? Intimidated by the thought of My sheer physical presence? Call Me whenever My phone sex line is on. No appointment necessary.
      I use NiteFlirt for most of my phone calls. Niteflirt is a well-established phone sex line with over a decade of service. Calls can be entirely anonymous. I very rarely check my message inbox and do not use their text message service. Best to just sign up and give me a ring there. 😉
      For texting, I use SextPanther. It is by far my favorite service to text subbies with and is fast and easy as it goes directly to my phone.
    • Cam Sessions –  Similar to my realtime sessions, my cam sessions may be set up provided a 24-hour advance notice. I use Skype.
    • Email / Text Message Domination – The perfect way to perk up an otherwise boring work day. I enjoy using this method for task-oriented slaves.


I am currently based out of Los Angeles, California. As a house Mistress, I once took My sessions out of the Den of Iniquity in Downtown Los Angeles. Currently, I am an independent and take the majority of My sessions at in-call private dungeons throughout Los Angeles. My home base in Los Angeles is Ivy Manor, but I do play at a couple of other studios. All the dungeons I play at are discreet, well-maintained, and highly regarded. I believe in maintaining a respectable standard of quality for Myself and My subs.

I also travel – as of the moment, My second BDSM homes are in the Bay Area and New York City, as I travel to both locales a couple times each year. Other cities are on the horizon, however if you have an unquenchable desire to see Me, I suggest you get in contact with Me. I only consider flying out for the unselfish sub, given that My flights, lodging, and dining are generously provided for. Not necessarily for the first-time sub.

Cities I have traveled to include:

  • Oakland/San Francisco, Bay Area, California
  • NYC, New York
  • Phoenix, Arizona
  • Washington, D.C.
  • London, England
  • Philadelphia, Pennsylvania
  • Sydney, Australia
  • Seattle, Washington
  • Amsterdam, Netherlands
  • Boston, Massachusetts
  • Vancouver, British Columbia, Canada

Cities I am tentatively adding to my roster include:

  • Melbourne, Australia
  • Berlin, Germany
  • Houston, Texas
  • Your city, if I receive enough inquiries!